Pro. While most people don't plan on getting divorced, things happen, and a prenup can protect you. Also, prenups can help to protect things you worked hard for before you got married.
i feel where ur coming from... but my thing is... If u need "protection" from this person (which is what it narrows down too) then why marry them in the first place?
You don't know what can possibly happen down the line. People change. While we'd all like to believe that marriage is forever, that's not always the case. Also, it's possible for some people to be so ~blinded by love~ that they don't realize their spouse has/had ulterior motives in why they wanted to get married.
truth. i was just talking about the fact that people change over time being the culprit for so many failed marriages... but i came to the conclusion that... although people change over time... you have to be willing to work through the troubles NO MATTER what. otherwise... dont get married! AND... if people rush into a marriage causetheyre blinded by love... then i say... YO BAD HOMIE. lol
And, while I agree with you, in signing a prenup, I'm ensuring that in the event something DOES happen down the line, I'm not paying anybody's alimony. LOL!
Also, Angela, there are certain things that just cannot be worked out, in my opinion. So, yes... when you get married, in theory, it's supposed to be forever and death till you part, but there are definitely certain things that can be deal breakers (at least for me).
Not always. It depends on what you put in the terms of the prenup, whether or not the court finds that you've forgiven the person, etc. There is some legal analysis involved.
Con. It shows that people are already placing more value in their possessions than in their relationship. Marrriage is about sharing life, love, and good times. If people are already concerned with what they may have to share or what they may lose, then they need to stop and reevaluate if they are really ready to commit or if they are with the ... Read Moreright person. If they are worried about how their future husband/wife could screw them if they eventually got a divorce, then they obviously don't trust their partner. Which begs the question... Why are you marrying someone you don't trust? Don't get married until you're willing to lose everything for that person you love. Then, a prenuptial won't even be an issue. If it still ends in divorce, then at least you didn't condemn it. I think there would be less divorce if people would really stop to think before they got married. Also, there wouldn't be as many divorces if people weren't so damn selfish. We have the freedom to be as selfish as we want when we are single. If you're ready to get married then you're ready to grow up and commit... For better or for worse.
A prenup doesn't necessarily mean that you're condemning the marriage from the start. Just like purchasing a life insurance policy doesn't mean you're condemning yourself to an early death. Or getting car insurance doesn't mean you're condemning yourself to getting in an accident. That's basically what a prenup is: an insurance policy.
No kind of failure is 100% avoidable because people are not perfect - only God is. And you can only control what you do - and to a certain extent, what your kids do. You can't possibly always foresee and control the actions of your spouse who is a fully functional adult.
if u get to kno someone well enough to marry them...and use logic not lust... u know if ur marrying a wierdo or a murderer or a player or anything that could break the deal...
How many times have we seen specials on the news where someone up and kills another and the neighbors/family/friends/whoever are saying, "He/she was so nice! Such a good person! I never would've thought they'd do anything like this!"
I'm not saying that you, or anyone in this thread, would marry a murderer. All I'm saying is that shit happens. No one is completely infallible or predictable. A prenup serves as an insurance policy that you hopefully never have to cash in on.
LOL I just used the murderer analogy as an example of people not knowing what a person they thought they knew was capable of... (wow, that was a convoluted sentence).
@David lmao...yeah and even the girl looks surprised that she pinned it on the right guy.
I'm not saying that you, or anyone in this thread, would marry a murderer. All I'm saying is that shit happens. No one is completely infallible or predictable. A prenup serves as an insurance policy that you hopefully never have to cash in on.
LMAO @ david.